SEEING ARIA TODAY-WONDERFUL AND ABSURD AT THE SAME TIME!
After
two months we were allowed two hours with our princess.
Off
course-seeing her is wonderful She is beautiful, fun to be with and she
has a lovely spirit.
She seems happy, and that is good to see. <3
We love her so much and we miss her even more after these visitations.
During those two hours she was playing with her mom and dad, she was
not very interested in her confidence-person after a short while.
When
she was tired at the end, she became whiny and wanted her foster-aunt to
comfort her. We see this as a normal reaction, even though it shows the
sadness and absurdity in what they are doing to our family. We try to
focus on making this visitation as good and positive for her as we
possibly can, thereby making our approach to her as sensitive as she
needs. We are always sadly aware of that children of her age does not
have the cognitive capacity to remember us from time to time.
Nevertheless, she somehow seems to understand the special bond between
us.
And despite the absurd circumstances, we feel that we really
connect with her. We can see more and more of our self in her, we see
resemblance with both her mother and father.
For us she is the most
beautiful girl in the world, and off course she is ahead in development
compared with other 16 month old toddlers (but this is a false belief of
almost every parent we think <3 ;-) )
Aria seems to be sure of her self, fearless and brave.
Somehow she
thinks she can do everything, without mastering it really-some would say
exactly like her father! We are very proud of our little, beautiful
girl <3
At the same time it is truly absurd to be able to see your own child
for only two hours every second month.
The police is watching outside,
allegedly because the father of Aria is dangerous.
We would ask-to whom
is he dangerous? Not once these 16 month has he made a threat, raised
his voice or lost his control, and we would claim this would be
difficult for everyone placed in the same situation. Also there was a
new case-worker today.
She seemed nice and friendly, but then
again, someone the parents have not met before. And she did not know, if
she was the supervisor on the next visitation.
So we still say that
the CPS/Barnevernet is not interested in making this a good situation
where the parents are able to show what really good parents they are.And to make the absurdity complete, we got the report from the last visitation when we arrived today. And what does it say:" This was, according to the opinion of the visitation supervisor, a
good visitation for the girl. Mainly all the time the focus and tempo of
the girl was taken into consideration.
The parents were able to
adjust their approach based on the girl.
The parents showed good
cooperation that was especially noteworthy during the meal, and at the
same time the showed understanding for each other by stroking each other
friendly at the back when the girl is leaving and the visitation has
finished.
The parents were tuned into the girl with voice, eye contact
and shared joy with the girl, and at the same time they facilitate a
good framework with meals and playtime.
It is also considered positive
that the parents accept advice and guidance from the visitation
supervisor."So this is CPS/Barnevernets own words.
We are good parents.
The same as the court-appointed psychologist claimed.
But still no
attempt to bring us back together, no attempt to see if they actually
made a mistake or a prejudgment in Arias case.
We are not surprised
any more of what this system is capable of. But sad, so sad. Mostly for
Aria and what she has been deprived of.
#barnevernspedagog #opexposecps #norway #stopbarnevernet #humantrafficking #justice #Aria